Thursday, December 17, 2009

Count Your Blessings, Find Ways To Fight Depression During the Holidays

It's Christmas time.
For our family, it's also vacation time and we are resting, relaxing and enjoying fun time together.
But there are also times this year that I struggle with my depression.

We lost a baby this year, back in August, and I am still struggling with fertility issues.
A sweet friend died this morning, another friend, her son, is going through a rough time and I feel great compassion for him.

Many struggle with depression during the holidays.
FIGHT BACK!!!!
Pump up the vitamins
Pump up the music
Get up and get busy!

Look around and COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS
Count your blessings
Name them one by one
Count your blessings
See What God hath done
Count your blessings!
Name them one by one.

For my dear friends and my family
I name you one by one, I count myself thankful for all God has sent to me and given me.

Thank you Lord for my husband, my children, my friends, my home, my life.
I am truly blessed.
Merry Christmas everyone.
Amy

Monday, November 30, 2009

Merry Christmas Free CD Goes to...... Crystal Arcand

Hello everyone,

The winner of the free Christmas CD this month in Crystal Arcand.
Thank you to Valerie, Crystal and Wendy for replying to my posts this month.

What's been going on here?

I just finished a Writer's Challenge on Suite 101,
30 articles in 30 days.
I'm very tired, but feel accomplished.

All is well here at home.

Michael turned 3 years old today.

I hope everyone has a Merry Christmas,
I'm still waiting to hear about the Christian Music Feature Writer position with Suite 101,
I should hear back soon.

Not much to report for right now.
Learning to rest more, listen more and love more.

Happy Holidays everyone,
AW

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Go Play! - How Times Have Changed Reflections From The Previous Generations

I received this is an email today from a friend. Its worth sharing with everyone.
If you are considering buying your child an Xbox, Play Station, Wii, Computer or Flat Screen TV this year for Christmas, please read this.

Remember what childhood used to be like?
Everyday we are told about the things we should or should not do anymore.

There is so much that we did as kids, that is no longer safe for our children.
Some of these things are no big deal, but some of these, I'd rather see my kids do then sit in front of the computer all day.
Things have changed so much, we are protecting our kids from outside dangers,
But take a good look, how many of you and your kids are struggling with weight issues.

Go play!

Turn the TV off, and the computer and the Xbox, no you don't need a CD player or MP3 player outside!
Go rake leaves and jump in the piles, ride your bike, roller skate or roller blade. Play pretend, climb trees, dig in the dirt......... Just go have fun!

 Face it, I'm a mom who loves my kids.
My husband and my children don't understand why I prefer traditional board games or fancy new ones.
Why is it, I prefer walking around the neighborhood to Xbox or computer games??

I was one of these kids who rode all over her neighborhood and beyond on her bike.........
I love them, I want to protect them, but I wish they had the same freedoms I had as a kid.....

Remember - and choose gifts wisely this year

Enjoy the email

To Those of Us Born Between
1930 - 1979

First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they were pregnant.

They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can and didn't get tested for diabetes.

After that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered with bright colored lead-base paints.

We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, locks on doors or cabinets and
when we rode our bikes, we wore baseball caps, not helmets on our heads.

As infants & children, we would ride in cars with no car seats, no booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, bald tires and sometimes no brakes.

And riding in the back of a pick- up truck on a warm day was always a special treat!

We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle.

We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and no one actually died from this.

We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter and bacon. We drank Kool-Aid made with real white sugar. And we weren't overweight.

WHY?

Because we were always outside playing ..... that's why!

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on.

We had no cell phones, so no one was able to reach us all day. And we were OKAY.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride them down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes.

After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem.

We did not have Play stations, color TVs, Nintendo's, or X-boxes. There were no video games, no 150 channels on cable, no video movies or DVD's, no surround-sound or CD's, no cell phones, no
personal computers, no Internet and no chat rooms.



WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!
We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no lawsuits from these accidents.

We would get spankings with wooden spoons, switches,ping pong paddles, or just a bare hand and no one would call child services to report abuse.

We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.

We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, made up games with sticks and tennis balls and although we were told it would happen, we did not put out very many eyes.

We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just walked in and talked to them.

Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment.

Imagine that!

The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law!

These generations have produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever.

The past 50 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.

We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned how to deal with it all.

So if you're one of US, CONGRATULATIONS!

You might want to share this with others who have had the good fortune to grow up as kids before the lawyers and the government started regulating so much of our lives for 'our own good.'


And while you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave and lucky their parents were.

Kind of makes you want to run through the house with scissors, doesn't it ?

'With hurricanes, tornados, fires out of control, mud slides, flooding, severe thunderstorms tearing up the country from one end to another, and with the threat of bird flu, swine flu and terrorist
attacks, are we sure this is a good time to take God out of the Pledgeof Allegiance?'
-Jay Leno-

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

December Giveaway - Suggestions Please, Free book or CD?

It's Beginning To Feel Like Christmas.........

Ok everyone,
I don't have a book to give away this month.
I'm looking, but I need your suggestions.

Do you want a book giveaway, or a Christmas music CD?


Please respond back with your preference.
If it's a book, what type? Christian Fiction? Duggars 20 and Counting? Christmas Cookbook or devotional?
I also wouldn't mind giving away a brand new NIV Bible to someone out there.

Everybody who responds is in for the drawing.
I'll reward our little Christmas Giveaway
November 30, 2009

I'm not writing as much
Called To Be Momma  is still a place of personal reflection and encouragement.

most of my daily writing is now done for my job at Suite 101, http://www.suite101.com/profile.cfm/awingfield

I hope you will sign up to follow both my writings at Suite 101 and continue following here as well.
Thank You!
AW

Friday, November 6, 2009

Listening Carefully To The Lyrics of Songs God's Messages of Love and Encouragement

Do you pay attention to the words of the songs you listen to?

Back when I was a young teenager, I didn't pay much attention to the lyrics of songs. I was having too much fun dancing to the drum beats!
One day, while in the church parking lot before services, I was listening to a song and swaying to the music. My boyfriend,(now my wonderful husband), said, " Have you listened to the words of the song? Do you know what he's saying?"

Until then, I hadn't paid much attention. It was just a fun dancing to the song. But I stopped and listened.
Oh my goodness! This man, singing this song, was talking about something I had no business listening to then or now. I learned a good lesson that day.

Every song has a message. Listen carefully and choose wisely.
For the most part, I now listen to Contemporary Christian music.
I'm convinced God uses these songs to constantly help people through their day.

Back in August, when we lost our baby, Hope, to a miscarriage, my heart grieved so much.
It hurt so much. It didn't seem possible. This had never happened to me. I have had four healthy babies. I have a wonderful life. Everything is suppose to be perfect.
I neededed somebody to understand.
I longed for somebody to talk to.
However, nobody really knew what to say or do.
Some tried, but the only real comfort can come from God.

Read the words to the song by Natalie Grant - Perfect People


Never let 'em see you when you're breaking
Never let 'em see you when you fall
That's how we live and that's how we try
Tell the world you've got it all together
Never let them see what's underneath
Cover it up with a crooked smile
But it only lasts for a little while


[CHORUS:]
There's no such thing as perfect people
There's no such thing as a perfect life
So come as you are, broken and scarred
Lift up your heart and be amazed
And be changed by a perfect God


Suddenly it's like a weight is lifted
When you hear the words that you are loved
He knows where you are and where you've been
And you never have to go there again


[CHORUS]
Who lived and died to give new life
To heal our imperfections
So look up and see love. Let grace be enough


[CHORUS]
By a perfect God [5x]
Be changed by a perfect God
Be changed

There's no such thing as perfect people, there's no such thing as a perfect life, so come as you are, broken and scared. Be amazed. Be changed by a perfect God.

That was God's message to me. He constantly reminds me through song, " Amy, I'm here. I love you."

Here's the choruses to a few more

Free to be Me
by Francesca Battistelli

`cause I got a couple dents in my fender

Got a couple rips in my jeans
Try to fit the pieces together
But perfection is my enemy
On my own I’m so clumsy
But on your shoulders I can see
I'm free to be me

Wait and See
by Brandon Heath

There is hope for me yet

Because God won’t forget
All the plans he’s made for me
I have to wait and see
He’s not finished with me yet

and one more.......

Lead Me to the Cross
by Hillsong

Lead me to the cross

Where Your love poured out
Bring me to my knees
Lord I lay me down
Rid me of myself
I belong to You
Lead me, lead me to the cross

Next time you turn on the radio, listen carefully to the words of the songs.
There is a message in every song.
God just might be trying to tell you, " I'm here. I love you, come as you are, broken and scared, "

Letting my perfect God lead me to the cross,
AW





Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Holiday Gift Ideas for Christian Music Fans and Possibility of a New Job!

Hello everyone,

I've been away for a bit, but here's why.
I have been working on a special project.

There's an opening at Suite 101 for the Christian Music Featured Writer, and I want the job!
It took a little over a week to complete the application process, but I've really enjoyed the challenge.

I had to submit 10 articles on various topics of Christian Music.
I just submitted all 10 articles to my editor for the position of Suite 101 Featured Writer in Christian Music.

I saved the best for last, a collection of 2009 Hot Christmas ideas for Christian Music fans.
It may be a month before I hear about the position.
I will let everyone know if I got the job.

I have listed the articles from most recent to first.
Feel free to share these with anyone.

Thank you for reading and for your support.
You can always continue to follow my articles by signing up for the RSS feed on my main page. HERE
or looking here on my righthand sidebar!


#10 Hot Christmas Gift Idea for Christian Music Fans http://christianmusic.suite101.com/article.cfm/hot_christmas_gift_idea_for_christian_music_fans

#9 Steven Curtis Chapman releases New Album
http://christian-rock-music.suite101.com/article.cfm/steven_curtis_chapman_releases_new_album

#8 Bebe and Cece Winans Release Reunion Album
http://gospel-music.suite101.com/article.cfm/bebe_and_cece_winans_release_reunion_album_still

#7 Sara Groves Fireflies and Songs New Album
http://christian-folk-music.suite101.com/article.cfm/sara_groves_new_album_fireflies_songs

#6 October 31, 2009, Jeremy Camp
http://christian-rock-music.suite101.com/article.cfm/jeremy_camp_live_unplugged_november_17_2009

#5 October 31, 2009 Brandon Heath
http://christianmusic.suite101.com/article.cfm/brandon_heath_what_if_we

#4 October 29, 2009 Francesca Battistelli
http://christian-rock-music.suite101.com/article.cfm/francesca_battistelli_debut_album_my_paper_heart

#3 October 28, 2009 The Contemporary Christian Music Movement
http://praiseworshipmusic.suite101.com/article.cfm/the_contemporary_christian_music_movement

#2 October 27, 2009 Miley Cyrus It's All About The Climb
http://christian-rock-music.suite101.com/article.cfm/miley_cyrus_its_all_about_the_climb

#1 October 26, 2009 Leeland, Brandon Heath Francesca Battistelli The Follow You Tour
http://christianmusic.suite101.com/article.cfm/brandon_heath_and_leeland_team_up_fall_2009

I attended the Follow You Tour on October 24, 2009.
I'll tell you all about that in a blog to come soon!

Monday, November 2, 2009

Congrats! to April Sanchez of Longview, Texas The Wednesday Letters Book Giveaway winner!

And the winner is.......... April Sanchez of Longview, Texas.

April won the copy of The Wednesday Letters.
Thank you for all who replied to my posts this past month.
Amy

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

How Much Do You Value Your Kids? Are they a Blessing or a Bother?

This past weekend, a friend was visiting. She told me about the Backpack for Kids program the Rotary Club is doing. Apparently, not only do schools provide breakfast and lunch for under-priviledge kids, but now the school sends home a backpack each weekend full of food in case the parents don't feed them!!!!!!

During the summer, parks all over the nation host breakfast and lunch programs to feed kids who may not get fed at home.

When did it become O.K. to have kids and not take care of them???
More and more people are relying on the government to take care of their kids.
I'm appalled to find out some people who get Medicaid and Food Stamps, and other government assistance, spend the money on everything but their kids, and then expect the government to feed their kids, clothe their kids, provide school supplies and Christmas presents for their kids.

The GOVERNMENT is not helping these people by doing everything for them!
There creating Human Sponges. No wonder America has lost it's sense of morality and values.
Why should anyone care anymore? The government will come in and help when things get bad, who cares?
__________________________________________________________________________

God Cares.

God loves us very much and desires fellowship with each and every one of us.

TEACH THIS TO YOUR CHILDREN EVERYDAY OF YOUR LIFE!!!!!!

Psalms 127:3-5 Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from him.
Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one's youth.
Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.
They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate.

Tell your children that they are blessing from God, gifts to Mommy and Daddy.
Let them know you believe God has entrusted you with their care.
Let them know you love them and are trying to care for them to the best of your ability.

Values and Morals are taught by example.
You are the example of Christ love to your children.
Let them see His Light SHINE in you.

Let children know God has a purpose and a plan for each and everyone of them.
Teach children that you believe it is your responsibility to instruct them and care for them and provide for them, equpping them to the best of your abilities to eventually serve Him.

The Government which was first created on the belief of, "In God We Trust," is now "In the government we trust."
No one is going to teach your children God's love, morals, values and compassion for others.
That must come from you.
If you don't teach them this at home, you are adding to the deterioration of society as a whole.

Stand up for Jesus!
Take a stand against all the government programs that giving people excuses to be lazy and not do their part for society, for their families, for their children and for themselves. Here are two sermons and articles about Proverbs and what the Bible teaches against laziness. Don't condone. Don't put up with it. Read Here, and Here

Don't get me wrong. There are people  who truly need our help. People need help learning to read and write. People need to learn job skills. People need help finding jobs. Some need help finding a place to live and a way to afford it. Some need dependable transportation.
Many people need free medical care.
A few need help with buying clothes and food.
I recognnize this, and for those people, truly in need, I'm all for helping them out.
I believe everyone of us would empty our pockets, our closets and our pantries to help a person truly in need. And, if we can't do it on our own, our church families and local non-profit organizations should help.

But expecting the government to take care of everybody, that was never in God's plan.
Teach your children to value helping one another and to care for one another.
Teach your children the value of work and everyone doing their part.

We are all one big family in God, brothers and sisters in Christ. You would never let a family member go without. If they need education, it's provided. Transportation, yes you're there. Medicine or medical care, yes,  everyone chips in. Clothes? Food? Absolutely!

We shouldn't see it any different for a neighbor, a friend or a family on the street living in a box.
Start teaching your children this concept now.
Education, (social, moral and values education), is the key to making America great once again.

Teach people how to get up and work to help themselves and others.
Quit letting the government teach them how to sit and hold their hands out!

Remind every parent out there how blessed they are to have children.
So many of us have learned the hard way to value life.
Some have not been given that gift, for whatever reason, they don't have the priviledge of having children.

Some, have been given the priviledge and lost children, for whatever reason, our children wait for us in heaven.

On Earth and in Heaven, in Life and in Death, Children are a Blessing, A Gift from God.
Rejoice in that gift,
Thank the Lord  everyday for the Gift of Motherhood,
and for goodness sakes, feed your kids, teach your kids, provide for your kids,
and most of all...........
Love your kids.

Monday, October 19, 2009

All You Magazine 2 yrs, 24 issues for $20 - Had to SHARE!!

Mommy Snacks is raising money for a local football team in her town.
She's got a great offer 24 issues of the All You Magazine for $20.

You will receive more than that in return just in coupon savings alone.

All You is a magazine only sold at Wal-Mart but is loaded with great information and even greater coupon deals.
Go here for the info!
http://mommysnacks.net/2009/09/all-you-magazine-24-issues-for-20-support-a-team/

Target and Kroger Deals Week of 10/19

Thanks to It's Hip to Save for posting this weeks Target deals. Click Here

I'm still not thrilled with the sales yet. I'm only shopping about once a month, and won't be mega shopping again until the middle of November, but I'm still watching the sales, just in case. They've got to get better.

Mommy Snacks post the Kroger Deals. Thanks so much. Click Here for Kroger.

Follow my articles on Suite 101, Topics So Far Include : Weight Loss, Insomnia, Low Progesterone, Women's Health and Christmas Shopping Ideas

Last month, I began writing for Suite 101 as a contributing writer. Each day, I write informational articles about anything and everything. It's fun!
Sign up to follow my daily articles HERE, or check back often.

Today's article was all about Christmas shopping for free or almost free.
http://family-budgeting.suite101.com/article.cfm/how_to_christmas_shop_on_a_tight_budget

A series I just completed is related to Women's Insomnia and isuues associated with sleep deprivation like low progesterone.
http://womenshealth.suite101.com/article.cfm/insomnia_as_a_result_of_low_progesterone_levels

For a list of all the articles I've written so far: weight loss, shopping, insomnia and women's health issues, please go HERE

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I heard about Ebates on TV and my newest article on Suite 101 is about Christmas Shopping for free or almost free, so I looked into it.

Most of the BIG Online sites give a percentage off when you shop their sites through Ebates.
Last night I went looking for winter clothes for the kids and a few grocery coupons for the kids. I will receive 2% back in cash from Ebates for shopping for things I needed at Ebay. It's not much, but every little bit helps.

Sign up and shop your favorite online stores through Ebates, get cash back! Your helping me earn too!
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Saturday, October 17, 2009

Walgreens and CVS Deals 10/18 Christmas Shopping Has Begun - See Articles

Starting Sunday Oct 18, CVS and Wal-green Deals, not too good this week.
Go to Deal Seeking Mom Click Here

Have a good weekend,

I've written a series of articles on Suite 101 to help you pick just the right Christmas Gift for Everybody this Year. Check out my articles, Here.

Friday, October 16, 2009

Weekly Grocery Deals October 11-17, 2009: Target, Kroger, CVS, Wal-Greens, Albertson's

I'm a few days late on this, but here are the deals I'm finding out there. If you don't mind, to save time and effort, I'm simply going to point you to others who have already done all the work for us. Go to their sites and print coupons as they lead you to.
Happy Shopping!

Target - Target is running some good sales, not great, but good. Check with Money Saving Mom by clicking HERE for the all the great Target deals this week.

Krogers, CVS, Walgreens , I'm going to send you over to South East Texas Deal Seeker. Click Here. Karen has it going on over there. I signed up to follow her.

Albertsons - The Krazy Coupon Lady let us know there's a big 3 day sale at Albertson's Starting today. Click Here for details.

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Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Growing With Christ, Becoming Christ-Like, Having the Heart of Christ, You May Not Be Prepared For It, The Journey Continues

This past summer I read Stepping Heavenward by Elizabeth E. Prentis. In the story, the young woman's mother was always reading Thomas a Kempis, The Imitation of Christ. The young woman found it odd. That was a book that was so boring and such a hard read, how could her mother find such comfort in such a thing.

Well, as I continue on my journey, I'm beginning to find the same thing. There are seasons in my life when the Words of God are too complicated for my child-like mind to comprehend, and yet other times it's as though the Lord God is holding me in His lap and explaining it all.

Below is an excerpt from Chapter 37 of Thomas a Kempis book The Imitation of Christ,

"At times, God will withdraw from you; at times you will be troubled by your neighbor, and, what is more, you will often be a burden to yourself. Neither can any remedy or comfort bring you relief, but you must bear it as long as God wills. For God desires that you learn to bear trials without comfort, that you may yield yourself wholly to Him, and grow more humble through tribulation. No man feels so deeply in his heart the Passion of Christ as he who has to suffer in like manner. The Cross always stands ready, and everywhere awaits you. You cannot escape it, wherever you flee; for wherever you go, you bear yourself, and always find yourself. Look up or down, without you or within, and everywhere you will find the Cross. And everywhere you must have patience, if you wish to attain inner peace, and win an eternal crown."

Ok, I'm right there this week. I understand this. I feel this. It's as though God is saying,"Ok Amy, you're learning, let's take it a step further."
For those that have been following my journey, you may remember I began caring for my two neices this past spring. Due to some family circumstances beyond our control, we have stepped up to home-school these two little girls, ages 6 and 4, and help out wherever we can.
In the beginning, I wasn't too happy about the situation. I felt it was thrown upon me. I didn't want to raise these two girls. It seemed so unfair. Why me? ( I told you many times, I tend to feel and act like a child myself.) I just didn't want to do it.
The little one is 4.5 years old, but mentally she's a 2-3 year old. We are hoping that she is just a little behind and will eventually catch up, but we are all beginning to realize that may not be, and God may have very special plans for this child and for us as we walk this journey together.

Today, I did something I was dreading. Today, the opportunity presented itself to tell this child's mother that we may have to have her tested at the beginning of the school next year if no improvement is seen this year.This little one may need to be taught in a special school. I may not be capable of meeting her needs. I have already spoken with her grandparents who are helping to raise the girls too, and I spoke with her teachers at church, but I didn't want to hurt her mother. What mother wants to hear that there may be something wrong with their child? What pain!
I shared that pain with her this morning, as we talked, I found myself grieving and crying right along with my sister-in-law. Where did that come from? What's happening to me? A few months ago, these were children and family members I didn't want to deal with. I felt burdened by.

This past Saturday, I informed my husband that I would be hosting both Thanksgiving and Christmas Day at our house from now on. In years past, I have avoided extended family interaction as much as possible because of the difficulties of dealing with each individual's special needs and personalities. My way of dealing with such things is not dealing with it at all. But I'm convinced God my Father is teaching me that is not His way. His way is LOVE and COMPASSION, unconditionally.

This past Sunday, two dear friends, brothers in Christ, gotten into a bitter quarrel. Words and actions of great pain and sorrow were exchanged. My heart GRIEVED. I literally shook with anger and tears of frustration to see two brothers in Christ be so unloving to one another. Why? Why do I care so much? These are just two men in my church that got into it with each other? What is happening to me?

You know I'm usually an NIV person. I have a hard time understanding KJV and usually think versions like the Message paraphrase too much, but look at how the Message put Ephesians 4:15

Paul says,"God wants us to grow up, to know the whole truth and tell it in love - like Christ in everything. We take our lead from Christ, who is the source of everything we do."

and here too Mark 3:31-35 (MESSAGE)
Just then his mother and brothers showed up. Standing outside, they relayed a message that they wanted a word with him. He was surrounded by the crowd when he was given the message, "Your mother and brothers and sisters are outside looking for you." Jesus responded, "Who do you think are my mother and brothers?" Looking around, taking in everyone seated around him, he said, "Right here, right in front of you - my mother and my brothers. Obedience is thicker than blood. The person who obeys God's will is my brother and sister and mother."

Ok, let me explain where I'm going with this. God is obviously teaching us through our trials and tribulations
One more time, one more scripture from the Message translation.
James 1:2-5 (MESSAGE)
Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides.
You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors.
So don't try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.
If you don't know what you're doing, pray to the Father. He loves to help. You'll get his help, and won't be condescended to when you ask for it.


Could it be spelled out any clearer than these three passages? We are all one big family in the eyes of God. God is our Father, our loving, protecting, caring, compassionate Father. He desires a relationship with us. He wants us to seek him out and ask questions like: "why?" "how come?"
He knows you don't understand. So He teaches and He guides along the way. We are His children. We are not perfect and we are going to make mistakes. And when we do, He picks us up, loves on us and sets back on the path where we need to be.
We are all His children, one big family. And the closer we geet to God, the more we learn to be like Him, the more we understand that concept.

This morning it hit me, if this is what it feels to be like Christ, to feel great love and compassion for others, to grieve and hurt when others grieve and hurt. If this is just a small taste of what it's like to be Christ-like, can you imagine the grief God feels for us when we suffer and when we sin? How much pain do we cause Him? Oh Lord, how deep and wide is your love for us.

I posting a link to a sermon I found concerning being Christ-like. I encourage you to print it out and read it. Click Here.

The author tells us we learn to become more Christ-like as we go through trials in life, but the key to all of it is our attitude. If our heart is not ready, trials will only bitter, not better. He quotes Philippians 2:5 (NIV)
Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:
He says and I quote, " How you view your experiences will often determine what you gain from them. We will grow in Christ if we view troubles as opportunities to learn to trust God."
AMEN.

There's not much else to say. Trials come our way: death, miscarriages, family circumstances, health issues, conflict. With each step, I'm learning to walk closer to closer to God and never leave His side. I am not prepared for the journey, but I'm learning to TRUST. He loves us and he provides for us and He'll guide us each step of the way.
May you be blessed,
Amy

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Called to be Momma, Experiencing Burn Out - How Do We Cope? Needing Encouragement, Rest and Understanding, Please Respond Back

Hello everyone,
It's been awhile since I wrote personally.
So much is going on right now.

I sold Another Blessing on September 15, and took a writing job with
 Suite 101 the end of September.
It was my intention to simply slow down a bit, down size, and write a little bit everyday for Suite 101 and my blogs, build a new income source and spend more time with my husband and children. I need rest.
I'm homeschooling all 4 of my children and 2 neices year round without a break, while still continuing to write and work from home, and manage the home. I'm working on losing weight and improving my health and yes, I'm hoping the Lord will bless us again with another child. It all adds up. my days are full. You know you've had enough when you just want to crawl in bed and be left alone. It shouldn't be like this. It's bad to get to this point, and once you're there, something is gotta change.

I enjoy writing, but I don't want to self promote. I'd like to just write and if they read, they read. If you read something you like, please share with others, let them know I'm here, but I just don't want to self-promote.
For 6 years, I built and ran Another Blessing as a business/ministry, but in order for it to be a success, I was constantly on Yahoo Groups promoting it to moms. I spent hours everyday reading and answering emails about home-schooling, quiverfull, being a stay at home mom, pregnancy and fertility issues. I dealt with controversial topics and personal convictions, and legalism on a daily basis. I don't want to do that anymore.

I am quiverfull. I will not deny that. In fact I'm a very outspoken person on the subject, GOD IS IN CONTROL! But if you've kept up with my blog over the last few months, you know that two months ago when we lost our little Hope.............. everything changed for me.

I know many of you have written to me letting me know not to blame myself, that God could have stopped the miscarriage, that this baby just wasn't meant to be. Maybe, only God knows for sure.
But in my heart I feel it was my mistake. one I paid for dearly. Instead of trusting God to meet that desire for another little one, I took matters into my own hands. I researched ways to increase ovulation and lengthen my fertile time. I took Vitex and used Progesterone Cream. I was eating spinach and yams in hopes of conceiving twins and took every vitamin I read would help with fertility.

To be quiverfull means to trust God with your fertility, and I didn't trust him to fix things, I took matters into my own hands. I immediately got pregnant, just as I hoped, but I made a big mistake. See I didn't know that if you are using Progesterone and conceive, you need to continue using Progesterone for about the next 14 weeks of pregnancy. At that point, the body starts producing it all on its own. Without a stable level of Progesterone in the body, the body will start a monthly cycle. I learned this information too late. I learned that Progesterone cream could help you in the conception process, but once I found out I was pregnant, I stopped using it thinking I would harm my precious baby. If I'd only known, maybe just maybe I'd still be pregnant today.

I should have just left it all in God's hands to begin with. I love watching the Duggar family, and the main reason why, they put it all in God's hands and welcoming everything that comes with it. What trust and faith they have. Why can't we be like that? I should be like that. I should be studying my Bible daily and praying throughout my day,
"Lord guide me. Show me how to do what it is you want me to do, and show me how to truly trust in your provisions. You know my heart's desires, but you also know what's best for me. Help me be at peace and find contentment in all that is mine today. Help me  be thankful and glad and to rejoice in what has been given to me instead of reaching for what I do not have." amen.

Dear readers, I'm tired, and I think I'm tired because I'm trying to do too much. I'm trying to do so much in my own strength when I should just be crawling into Savior's arms and letting Him who knows me best meet all my needs.
I'm going to keep Called to be Momma going, but I'm going to combine Coupons for Mom and WebWorking Home on the sidebar here somehow. I think maybe twice a week, maybe on Monday and Wednesdays, I'll run shopping deals on here. I'll post CVS, Walgreens, Target and Kroger deals for you to follow. I'll put the online coupon sources on this sidebar and you can still print coupons online from my site. On Tuesdays, I'll post Work at Home opportunities for those of you looking for online jobs. Then Thursday - Sunday or as the mood hits, this is still a place for encouragement and inspiration to all who feel the Call to be Momma.
I want to keep it going, but I need to simplify and I'm asking for you the readers to do the promoting. Please just let me write, and if you like what I write or think it can help someone, you are welcome to share it with others.
Thank you for helping me. I love the fact that I can write to express my thoughts and know someone is listening and reading and responding. We're helping each other.

Right after the miscarriage, on the Yahoo Groups, I was flooded with emails after emails from readers who had gone through miscarriage too, some many times. I'm not at a place in my life where I can accept my miscarriage was God's will. It was my mistake. Even Michelle Duggar only speaks of one miscarriage out of 20 pregnancies! Only one, and it was due to being on the birth control pill. Again, taking matters into one's own hands. She and Jim Bob grieved at that mistake and turned everything over to God. Look at what God's done in their lives!!! They are blessed immensly and the blessings just keep coming. Every personal or financial need they have is being met through God's provisions and they give God all the Glory. They are beautiful to watch and learn from, because I see them doing what I should be doing. Trusting and Walking with God my Father in Faith, Joy and Happiness.

I can't keep going at the pace I'm going.
I like writing for Suite 101, and I plan to continue doing so. I hope to eventually gain a following and replace the income I was earnning with Another Blessing.

I'm going to drop all the Yahoo Groups today except for the coupon trains, freecycle and my local homeschool group and my group Biggest Loser Mommas. I think eventually, I'll drop the coupon trains as well, I just can't keep up with all of it.  I need to slow down and trust God will meet all our needs and he knows the desires of my heart.

Maybe you have felt this way too, now or in the past. We're home-schooling, managing the home and paying bills. Some of us are working from home too. Some of us are battling health issues, or spiritual issues, or both.  How do you deal and cope with all that is on your plate? Who do you talk to? Who listens? Who helps? For me, I've found in most cases I can't find anybody but God who understands.
I started this blog a year ago in hopes of finding others who could relate, who would understand, who I could talk to. I started this blog a year ago to hopefully get my friends here to read and understand me better, but the truth is, most of those people I hoped would read my blog, don't. They still don't understand, and probably never will. I know God does though, and some of you do too. Thank you.
May we continue to help each other.

For now I leave with this,
Matthew 11:28 (NIV)
"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."
What a Friend We Have in Jesus
Feel free to email me or leave a comment,
Amy
wingfieldfamily@gmail.com

Saturday, October 10, 2009

Congratulations to Josh and Anna: Mackynzie Renee Duggar is Here!

Josh and Anna Duggar welcomed their first child, a girl, Mackynzie Renee Duggar , born Thursday at home with Michelle, a midwife and a doula helping. She's a healthy one, 8 pounds, 19.5 inches, and she wasn't due until next Sunday!
The birth will be on TLC Tuesday night, October 13, 2009. 8P Central time.

Thursday, October 1, 2009

Quiverfull Sharing : When only one of you is QF by Louis Comus

Hello all,
I am a subscriber to the Quiverfull Digest at Quiverfull.Com
We received a post that I have asked permission to share with you.

In these hard economical and political times, it is hard to keep the FAITH and continue to take a STAND.
Louis reminds us all to Give It All to God.
If you stop to think about it, He's been in full control this whole time anyway.
He doesn't need our help, only our Trust and Faith.

May you be blessed.

From: Louis Comus

Subject: Re: When only one of you are QF minded

"As I've recently asked the members of this forum a very similar question (and have been receiving several GREAT replies, both on and off-list), I write as one who, by admission, do not have all the answers on this subject.
I will, however, pitch in my "two cents' worth" on the issue of how "quiverfull" reliance on God to plan one's family (as distinguished from deliberate prevention of pregnancy) ought to relate to bad political situations. In addition to our fellow forum member's mention of sociopolitical dark clouds in South Africa, I've heard a similar concern expressed by a member of my wife's and my own US church, that increasing society-wide immorality and potential increases in anti-Christian legislation, possible nationwide economic deterioration, and the like might be good reasons for them to avoid having another (in that family's case, a third) child.

When I heard that concern from our church friend, the thought immediately came to my mind that the situation of Israel in Egypt must have been, in many respects, the same as what my friend feared (and, probably, much worse.) Exodus chapter 1 lays out the scenario: the former political ally of God's people had died, and with him had died the earlier Pharaoh's at-least-slight openness to God's influence and messages (you'll recall that the Pharaoh in Genesis 41:38-49 gives a remarkably-receptive hearing to the message God sent him through Joseph, to the point that Pharaoh allows Egypt's public policy to be swayed, very significantly, by input from Joseph and Joseph's God) (even though not to the point of mass conversion, apparently.) Under a later Pharaoh, this is reversed--to the point that the later Pharaoh orders mass infanticide of Israel's children. This will later be followed (Exodus 5:6 and following) by a drastic and deliberate increase in Israel's workload.

This is not a good social or political environment in which to raise children, from an earthly perspective! You've got the obstetric community under orders to kill the male children; you've got a future in which the workload will be deliberately increased to cut back on the people's religious practice. From a merely-earthly, economy-driven, how-much-spare-time-do-we-have perspective, it sounds like as good a time as any to bring on the birth control pills and limit kids to a maximum of one per couple. Hey, at least they'd have more time to make their quota of bricks without straw; they'd deprive the Egyptians of slaves; and they'd be in a better position to hide the kids they had--less noisy crying to give them away, etc.

So what does God do in this situation? Rain down birth control pills on Goshen in place of manna? Reveal to Israel how to make condoms and spermicide? Command vasectomies instead of circumcision?

Nope. God makes them "fruitful"; they "increased greatly, and multiplied, and becme exceedingly mighty, so that the land was filled with them." (Ex. 1:7) In fact, the Hebrew women prove to be very vigorous and healthy in their birth-giving, such that the Egyptian midwives can plausibly say that the Hebrew women give birth without their assistance, and too quickly for the Egyptians to carry out their ordered infanticide. (Ex. 1: 15-19.) We're not told just how much of this excuse was true, and how much false--though I do note that one way a woman can get very fast at having babies is to have had a lot of previous babies. (Personal experience here!) In short, we see that God responds to the horrible socio-economic situation of His people that existed both at the time of Moses' birth, and which God foreknew would be the case somewhat later (the "no-straw-for-bricks" situation that was to come later, in chapter 5) by making His people extremely fertile and extremely obstetrically healthy.

Compared to this, the worries about the U.S. situation seem kind of pale, don't they? I can't speak so much for our sister in Africa, but I like to think things aren't quite as bleak as in Moses' Egypt there. Not to minimize what I'm sure is a dangerous and worrisome situation there! But--do you see what I'm saying?

Fast-forward to Luke, chapters 1 and 2, and Matthew, chapters 1 and 2. Here we have conception and birth stories for both John the Baptist and Jesus. We know John's parents are old. Can you imagine God telling Zechariah to abort if it turns out the alpha-feto-protein test comes out looking disturbingly positive? We know--and God knew--that John would have about the worst possible conflict with the government that could be imagined. Herod is going to have John's head cut off, ultimately as a consequence for preaching the truth. This is a favorable situation into which to birth a baby? With Mary, it's even worse. She lives in Nazareth. She's going to have to travel WHERE? At HOW MANY MONTHS pregnant? And give birth WHERE? And that Herod guy is in charge--have you heard about how many people he's killed even in his own family? And the Romans are in charge of the whole thing--that empire run by homicidal polytheistic deviants!

Forget the Romans for a moment--what do you think Herod is going to do if he finds out that someone with kingly aspirations is born in Bethlehem? With his track record, he's likely to kill off all the babies born within a year or two of this new baby's birth! How can one call conceiving a baby under those circumstances socially responsible? For the good of all the other kids in Bethlehem, she'd better not get pregnant. Right?

And that's putting aside the minor point that, as Mary points out, she hasn't even got a husband yet. Kind of a prerequisite, no? What will conception under that situation do--for her? For her family? For the community? For the child (Jesus) Himself? Nah--better at least wait, until the marriage has happened, the economics improve (remember, Mary and Joseph didn't have the financial resources for more than the poor people's dove offering); and until the political situation improves. The world would at least suggest that Mary wait until after the honeymoon, after the money gets built up a bit, and after she and Joseph had had a chance to get to know each other better and get accustomed to married life.

Again, nope! God had other plans. And we're all glad Mary went along.

Just a few random thoughts. Finding times and situations in which the future looks worrisome is not hard to do--indeed, it may be virtually impossible. Yet God seems to work quite eagerly through people conceived and begotten under very adverse circumstances. So: though I have my deep concerns about my country's society, morality, economic situation, etc., etc., I look at the Biblical precedents, and suddenly my concerns seem to pale a lot in comparison.

Again, just thinking, and just addressing the "our situation is bad today" concerns.
Thanks, again, to all of you for your prayerful and wise input!"

September Book Giveaway Winner - Congradulations Jen McCreary ! - Family Unplanning by Craig Houghton

Give God everything. He gave up everything for you.
Why do we let Him lead and some areas of our lives and try to take control in other areas?

Wonderful Couselor, Prince of Peace, Mighty God, Abba, Father
Are we not God's Children?
Shouldn't the Father know more than the son and thus lead the son?

It's a hard concept to grasp, especially in some areas of our lives like family planning and fertility.
God is our loving Father. He does have great plans for us. Jeremiah 29: 11-14 (NIV)
He knows and supplies our every need before we even know we need it or express the need.
Philippians 4:19 (NIV)

Everyone who left a comment in September was entered into a random drawing to receive a signed copy of

Craig Houghton's Family Unplanning 

And the Winner is............
Jen McCreary from East Berlin, PA



Jen will receive a personally signed copy of Family Planning from Craig Houghton in a few weeks by mail.
A personal Thank You to Craig for allowing me the priviledge of sharing his book.

Many of you know I believe in giving God everything. It's a constant struggle, but I truly believe if we give it all to Him and allow Him alone to receive the glory.................
Great Things Will Happen.

May you be blessed,



OCTOBER BOOK GIVEAWAY- The Wednesday Letters by Jason F. Wright, a wonderful book about overcoming obstacles, serving one another, loving one another and forgiving one another.

If you would like to win your own copy of this book, just leave a comment anytime during the month of October. Winner will be announced November 2, 2009.

Saturday, September 26, 2009

Teaching the Gift of Patience Pays of BIG!!!!! - The Marshmallow Test

I just saw this on CNN, it may be old news to some of you,
but teaching your kids to wait really does pay off  BIG!

Watch the Kids Marshmallow Test.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rMkn4J_l9uU

Kids are brought into a room, given one marshmallow and two choices:
Eat it now and that's all you get,
Don't Eat it. Wait until I get back and I'll give you another.

Some of the little ones were eating during the instructions!
Those that wait, they are said to have higher test scores and perform better in school.

Personally, I love the last kid. I want it. I'll wait. I'll wait. I'll wait.
PAYOFF! Now I have TWO!
He then shoves both of them in his mouth at one time!
PURE SATISFACTION!

Now that's a Smart Kid!

End of Month, Living on A Dime, Budget Crunching, Frugal Mom Ideas!

How many of you are feeling the end of the month financial crunch right now?
Raise your hands high!

Oh I thought we were doing so good. I was budgeting, saving, couponing, watching sale ads, stockpiling, etc. I sold my web-business of six years. I was getting ready to kick back and relax a bit.

Our one vehicle, our 2003 Dodge Caravan died yesterday, blew a Head Gasket and a water pump.......
$1500! That with all the end of the month bills, mortgage, etc................
We're still debt free, but only if we REALLY TIGHTEN OUR BELTS!

I know you're with me. You hear me. Most of us are stay-at-home moms on one income.
We do what we can where we can.
I found a few E-books out there worth sharing. Christmas is coming. Begin thinking of creative ways to save and still give gifts that show you care.
Anybody do Once a Month Cooking?
Here's one for you.
Frugal Mom's Guide To Once A Month Cooking
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Love to go out to eat but find it hard to afford?
Check these out!
Home Bound Dining - Restaurant recipes at Home
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500+ Healthy Chinese Recipes Cookbook
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Here are two books for all of us who are just too tired to think anymore!
Menu in a Box - 100 Day Menu Planning Kit.
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A Month of Meals
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Ok, I'm gaining weight just writing this!
Let's step out of the kitchen and into saving money on everything else!

Living On A Dime - Financial Independence Through Better Life Choices. Publisher Of E-books About Paying Off Debt, Saving Money, Frugal Cooking And Homemaking
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Cheap Organizers: Recycle, Reuse, And Repurpose...
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I like this idea, put the kids to work for a change!
Jobs For 13 Year Olds: 51 Unique Ways For Kids To Make Money. Looking For Fun Jobs For 13 Year Olds? Here Are 51 Ways Your Kids Can Average $50 Dollars A Week Or More In Their Spare Time. Plus, An Easy-to-follow Guide On Ways To Teach Kids The Value Of A Buck...so They'll Never Be Broke...or Drowning In Debt!
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Here's one we could all use someday!
How To Send Your Child To College Free
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Ok, that's all for today.
I fired the cook, the landscaper, the housekeeper and the nanny!
ROTFL! (Rolling -on-the-floor-laughing)
Called to be Momma - One who does it all, and if she doesn't know how......... She learns!
Have a good, but frugal weekend,

Friday, September 25, 2009

An update on me and a testimony from one who feels Called to be Momma

Hello all,
I have a special treat for you today.
Yesterday, one of my followers posted her Giving it all to God Testimony on Above Rubies Yahoo Group
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AboveRubies/

I was so inspired by her story I asked both the writer and the moderators of Above Rubies if I might share it with all of you.
May you be inspired and blessed.

I wanted to give you a quick update on my condition.
My health has not been good this month.

I pinched the same nerve in my left leg twice this month, recovered from it and then last week pinched a nerve in my right shoulder. I am now recovering from it. I don't know how or why it's happening but I'm going to start lifting small weights and doing Yoga type exercises to increase strength and mobility. This may be Arithitis & Cerebral Palsy related.Yes, I have both, the Cerebral Palsy is mild left side, left leg is slightly longer than right leg. Thank you to all of you who offered words of advice and encouragement and prayer.

Monday - I started my Doctor prescribed Progesterone therapy in hopes of carrying another baby.
Prometrium 200 mg, twice a day.
I miscarried in August. My first and hopefully my last miscarriage.

I was trying to self treat symptoms of non-ovulation with progesterone cream. When I got pregnant and stopped using the cream. I didn't know I should have kept using it for 14 weeks, thus I suffered a miscarriage when those progesterone levels dropped too low.
I do not know if we are pregnant. It's too soon.

However, the Prometrium has some side effects, it makes you nauseous, dizzy for about two hours after taking it and it causes weird dreams and nightmares. It wipes me out. I have very little energy right now. I'm taking it twice a day, at lunch and at bedtime.
I lost my lunch yesterday and slept for over two hours.

If my cycle comes this month, I will quit taking it until mid-cycle next month, but if I'm expecting, I will continue on it for the next 14 weeks to try and avoid another miscarriage.

It's a lot to go through, but I don't want to lose another baby.
One day at a time.

I'm afraid to eat much if it might come back up.
One good note, last night on a CVS trip, I found the new Biggest Loser Protein Powder Chocolate and Vanilla for 75% off, $3.75 a can.
It's Whey protein, 50 calories a serving, can be mixed with water.
I will be using it alot!
Please continue to remember me in your prayers.
God will get the Glory from all of this.

Let me introduce you to Siobhan Hannah Gagliardo.
She and her husband have a wonderful inspiring and encouraging story to tell.
They have decided to cancel their internet service, but if you would like, she welcomes you letters and phone calls at
Siobhan Hannah Gagliardo

Home Phone: (845) 480-5345
Address: 197 Sickles Ave Apt F-10
Nyack, NY 10960

Giving it All to God

My husband and I from the day we were married said we didn't want to use contraceptives. We just wanted to trust the Lord. A few months later we were pregnant with our first baby. However, we miscarried after 6 weeks, which was very sad for us. Though a few months later we were pregnant again and this one made it. Praise God! We delivered our first baby boy at HOME on Feb 16, 2008. Then the question of having another baby arose when I got my period back after only four months postpartum. So we weren't sure what to do so we just didn't have intercourse for another four months. So after eight months we just couldn't wait any more and were ONE once again. I got pregnant right away and was just delighted. :) We again delivered at HOME on July 13, 2009. So the thought of having another baby came up before she was even born and especially after she was and we started looking into what Christians believed about birth control. This is how we stumbled upon the Quiver full movement, which evidently lead us to Above Rubies. We have read "Family Unplanning" and I am currently reading "Be Fruitful and Multiply". We are utterly convinced that our faith in the Lord was the biblically the right thing to do even though we chose to do it without knowing that the scriptures commands us to. I praise God for this ministry and it has been such a blessings to read many of all you ladies' posts about your lives. I have been really blessed. :) So we are now fully trusting the Lord with how fruitful my womb will be. I am only two month postpartum and so look forward to the thought of the Lord blessing us again with another baby or babies. :) When we really allow ourselves to be what we were designed to be our natural being really does cry out for what it was intended to be. I really LOVE being pregnant and LOVE giving birth as well. My second birth was just incredible and completely the Lords and mine, together. I totally surrendered myself to the Lord and grew so much with the Lord though the process. I praise and bless the Lord for that wonderful experience. I pray you all would have such experiences with your pregnancies and births. Even though it went so well and I learned so much I know that I will learn new things with each one and I look forward to that. We are really trusting the Lord with our family and the provisions we will need to take care of the blessings he has and will give us.


On a bit of another note I have been blessed by all the godly mindfulness you all have and how you are encouraging one another to keep with the Lord always. We do not have any Christians in our life where we live. We know people abroad that are true believers but no one locally. Its a real hard thing and its really been wearing on us. So I really bless the Lord for you all and the real encouragement you have all been.

Please keep us in pray, those of you who the Lord leads to pray for us.
I must be getting to bed now.
Blessings,
Siobhan
(Wife of Ryan;
Mother of David (19months)
and Lea(2months)

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Mommas Need Sick Days. Dealing with Sickness, Pain, Hormones and Emotions.

I can almost bet that title got your attention.

The calling to be Momma is a job, but it is like no other job on the planet. 
From the moment of conception to your dying breath, you are on duty.
There are no sick days, you can't just take a personal day. It is 24/7/365.

Your benefit package is seeing the rewards at the end of the journey. Hopefully your house, home, spouse and children will rise up and call you blessed. They will all be happy, self-sufficient, strong and independent individuals, all because you never quit. You prayed. You worked. You cared. You loved.

But there are days when you just want to crawl in the covers or sit in a corner and cry.
We get sick. We hurt. We get tired. We need people to understand. We need a break.
And for most of us, the only one who understands and meets our needs is God.

Matthew 11:28 says,
28"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." (NIV)

For those who have followed my blog, you know I suffered a miscarriage in August. Our sweet Hope went to be with the Lord, and yes, I di think all the measures I took to try and become pregnant caused the loss. I didn't have all the facts about how progesterone works in the body..

Over a month has passed. My cycles have returned to normal. I'm taking my doctor prescribed progesterone supplements as directed, and I'm hopeful God will bless us again. I keep dreaming of a little girl, Sarah.
I want to hold her in my arms.

But there are a few complications.
I have Cerebral Palsy. It is a very mild form that usually only affects my left side. However,my left leg is slightly longer than the other and as I get older arthritis is setting in and my body is not cooperating as well as I would like it too.
Several weeks ago, while working in my yard, I pinched a nerve that affected that left leg. After several days of rest and tylenol, it finally popped back into place bringing much relief. A few days later, while cleaning the house, it happened again. It is easing up, but the tingling shooting pain down the left thigh reminds me to take it easy.
Saturday night, while watching a movie and holding my son, I pinched another nerve in my right shoulder blade. I feel like Frankenstein. I cannot turn my neck or head. My shoulder blades feel like they are folding inward on my spine and my arm feels numb and tingles. I HURT!

Tylenol does not help much, Massages do not help much, and laying down is almost impossible.
To top it all off, this all happened this weekend during the height of my "conception," time.
My hormones are at an all time high!
I feel like crawling in a corner and just crying.
I want to be pregnant again. I want relief. I want somebody to understand.
I want REST!
But life must go on.
Housework and schoolwork must keep going.
Schedules must be maintained.
Meals must be cooked.
Bills must be paid.
The kids need me. My husband needs me.
The Calling to be Momma is one of the best and most rewarding jobs in the whole world.
I love my job, and I thank God for the blessing of children, a good husband and all that God has provided.

It is absolutely amazing what God has done for this family.

I have a wonderful Godly husband who can be relied upon and faithfully goes to work each day to provide well for his family. Not only that, but then he comes home to play with the children and help where he can here.

I have four beautiiful and healthy children, three girls and one boy. They fill my days with joy, mostly, and a reason to get up in the morning. I love watching them grow and learn.

God meets all our financially needs. We are completely debt free, except for the mortgage. We are committed to staying debt free in a world that does not value the concept of,"if you can't afford it, you don't need it, and if you need it, God will provide it." I firmly believe that. God has proven that to me over and over and over.

I am truly blessed and thankful.
But right now, for just a few days, I'd love to just crawl in bed and sleep.
May God heal my weary body and restore my energy.
Pray for me.

Friday, September 11, 2009

Reflections

I woke up yesterday to the sounds of children fussing.
This is not unusual in my house.
Two of my four children are like me. They don't do mornings well.
The youngest and the oldest were at odds with each other.
As I listened to the 12 year old bark at the two year old, my past caught up with me, and a lesson was formed, one I would share in hopes that history would not repeat itself.

When I was 25 years old, I was an assistant manager for a department store. I was a recent college graduate, and I thought I RULED THE NEST, and I let everybody know it.
I was one of the meanest, red power suit wearing bosses in the history of working women's history!
I didn't delegate, I dictated!
What did it get me?
Probably several nicknames I never want to hear.
I made very few friends, but I'm sure I had lots of enemies.

That made me remember something else from my childhood.
My dad was a police officer, but he wasn't your typical," in your face I wear a badge, let me push my authority on you law officer."
I don't ever remember my dad being mean......to anyone, ever!
Dad had a reputation for being the "go to man."
The one people knew would do right by them.
One of his jobs was being in charge of the, "trustees," (that's people in jail for me and you).
He gave everyone the benefit of the doubt.
Instead of letting them set all day in jail, he gave prisoners a chance to redeem themselves by getting outside, mowing, raking, washing cars, etc. He never said much. You just knew with him, this is my chance, don't mess up. If you did, well, you didn't get another chance, back to the cell you went.

But I can bet very few ever messed up, and many were very appreciative that this man was kind and considered them as individuals who deserved good care, respect and a chance at redemption.
Daddy was highly respected and leaves behind a legacy for future officers to hopefully follow in his footsteps.

I wish I had remembered that when I was playing, "rooster of the henhouse," as a 25 year old department store manager. The only legacy I left behind was, "Yay! she's gone! Good Riddance." I have nothing to show for those years except for all the grief I caused people and the fact I have few friends now reminds me that I had a lot to learn. I have learned, and I'm sorry.

Now I'm Momma, and as my daughter enters her teen years I see the same struggle in her as I had growing up. How do we delegate without dictating? How do you show you are in charge and responsible without coming across as a tyrant and an oger.
The answer..........
My husband tells the kids, "you catch more flies with honey than with vinager."
That's it.
That's the key.
Kindness, Respect and Patience.......
Dissernment, good judgement.

Take a look at the people you admire most. Why do you admire them? More than likely you admire them for their character and their heart.
Take Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar for example. I watched Michelle give birth to one of the 18 on TV a few years ago. She wasn't screaming in agonizing pain, she was blessing God, praying and rejoicing over the new little one she was delivering.
We never see them yell. I've never seen a mean side, and I can almost bet that what you see on TV is quite real with this family. Michelle and Jim Bob are very patient, very kind, very loving, very REAL on camera and off camera. This character has earned them respect with each other, their children, their family and nearly everyone who meets them.

What is it they are really showing us?
The heart of Christ.
Many people take to heart the writings of Paul the Apostle in the New Testament.
The greastest goal we can ever reach for is becoming more and more like Jesus Christ himself, running the good race and running it with all our might.
I want to finish well. Don't you?

My daughter will have to figure out for herself through her struggles and trials that to be like Christ is the key to everything. Having the heart, the compassion, the love, that will take you so far.
Jesus never dictated. He was never a tyrant nor an oger.
He was a friend........ and leaves with all of us a living legacy that will last eternity.
The best way to gain respect is to LOVE.

"And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love."
1Corinthians 13:13 NIV

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Change is in the Air - Autumn is upon us - Time to Organize

I noticed this past weekend that the Red Leaf Maples are beginning to change their color. Those beautiful fiery red leaves can only mean one thing....... AUTUMN! The Hot Summer is on it's way out and the cool breezes of Fall are slowing coming in.
For me, this signals a time to slow down, get organized and prepare for the upcoming holidays and settle down into our yearly school/home routines.
There are many ways to get organized, and there are numerous people out to help you get the job done.

FlyLady - http://www.flylady.net/ - When it comes to cleaning and organizing, these ladies mean business.
I've heard people refer to Homeschool as the Homeschool World or Homeschool Community. The Quiverfull are know as the Quiverfull World or Quiverfull Community, same thing with SAHM (Stay-at-Home-Moms), and WAHM, (Work-at-Home-Moms). Well, now add a new one to your vocabulary, FlyLady.
They say they are your personal online coaches to help you gain control of your house and home.
There are many FlyLady sites, yahoo groups, forums, blogs, etc. Each one will offer you numerous tips to declutter, organize and improve the quality of your caotic life.

Managers of the Home - Managers of Their Homes: A Practical Guide to Daily Scheduling for Christian Homeschool Families - offered by Steve and Teri Maxwell at http://www.titus2.com/
You might have heard about this system if you follow the Duggars. This is what Michelle Duggar used when the show 18 Kids and Counting first began to air on TLC years ago, although then it was only called 14 Kids and Pregnant Again. Congradulations are in order to Michelle. She announced #19 is due in March 2010.
You can read all about that at http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/32630876/ .
Anyway, back to Managers of the Home. If you are a home-schooler and need a way to organize house, home, school, and chores, Teri will teach you some great strategies to becoming a Super Organized, Super Mom. However, there is a catch. Back in my Early Childhood Teaching days, before being Called to be Momma, I worked in the daycare/childcare industry. We had this saying, " We have a schedule, but the babies can't read it!"
You may develope this beautiful, wonderful, precise, totally organized schedule, cleaning routine, chore chart, menu and grocery list on paper......... but getting the family to follow your little book of plans make take some effort. The chart may be on the wall, but unless it is taught and followed, becomes a discipline and routine, it will not work.
A Home-School or Stay at Home Family is only as organized and disciplined as the Momma.
It all falls to you being committed to setting up a stable and consistent routine. I've learned children do so much better when they know what to expect. Mommas do better too when things go according to plan. Don't expect it to happen everyday, but make it your goal anyway.

I heard a new term this summer. Minimalist - A Minimalist is someone who gets rid of everything they don't need. There's a blog called Zenhabits, http://zenhabits.net/ , I don't like the name. I will tell you right away that I am a Christian with a very strong belief in Faith and Trust in God. But the Zenhabits blog will give you the basic principles of living the Minimalist lifestyle, declutter your life, your home and living simple.
I found the story of one Christian woman who sounds alot like most of us. She works from home, raises her children , and is trying her best to manage it all. Read her story and how she became a minimalist. It's inspiring. Christa's Story -  http://www.becomingminimalist.com/2009/06/30/christas-story/

Find what works for you.
Each one of us are different.
Each of us are Called for a different purpose.
What's right for me, may not be right for you, and that's ok.
However, we are all basically doing the same thing, as we are all Called to be Mommas.
We are raising our children to the best of our abilities.
We are managing house/home/social committments. Some of us can add work and religion to that list.
We're all striving to do better and be better.

As the winds of change take you into the seasons of life, search your heart for what you are really looking for.
Do you need to work on your relationship with God? Your Husband? Your Children? Your Friends?
Do you need to improve your quality of life by decluttering, getting your priorities in order, organizing and scheduling?
Would it help to set up a constant routine for your house, home and family?
What about a quiet time with God each day? Don't Forget to set aside a little time for yourself each day too!
Do you have debt? Are there things you can cut back on and do without to help pay off that debt?
Take a look at my other blogs. One will help you save money on groceries and things you buy.
http://www.couponsformom.blogspot.com/
The other will give you options for finding ways to earn money at home.
http://www.webworkinghome.blogspot.com/

As for me, I'm doing my own minimalizing. Cutting back on things I don't need, cutting coupons, cutting back on my committments, setting up routines and schedules and spending more time with my husband and children. Like the leaves on the red leaf maple tree. My life is turning out beautiul!

Friday, September 4, 2009

Lesson Learned - Do you know the facts about progesterone?

So many of you out there are like myself.
You love being Momma.
There's nothing like feeling a baby's first kicks within the womb,
(and of course the "conceiving" with your husband is nice too!)

But I love the whole experience!
Time with my husband
Conceiving
First heartbeats
First kicks
The flood of joy when the baby is delivered!
And holding that new baby...........
Watching them grow, change, learn and live!
It's the best job in the world!

I'm called to be Momma and I love it!
Even on those days that seem so long, I realize how blessed I am to have four beautiful healthy children.
Thank you Lord for the blessing of my children.

This past summer, I learned a hard lesson.
When it comes to my health and monthly cycles, I'm usually consistent.
Every 28 days, that visitor knocks on my door.

Back in the Spring, this family had some big changes.
We moved into our new home, and at the same time there were some extended family issues that combined with all that was going on with the move and settling in, made life extremely stressful for me.

I should have given it all to God, laid it all at His feet and walked away. I didn't do that.
I let it get to me......and my health suffered.
In May, my cycle was only 26 days.
In June, 25 days.

I wanted more children.
I wasn't ready for this peri-menopause, pre-menopause.
I'm not ready to shut that door.

So, I did what probably most of you do too, I began looking for answers and way to fix things.
I made an appointment with my OB/GYN, but I couldn't get in for almost two months.
This was June and I couldn't get in to see my doctor until July 24.
I struggle with patience. No! I want it fixed now!

So I turned to ever faithful internet and forums and groups for answers.
Here's what I found, and what I did.
I bought vitamins and started taking
Prenatal Vitamins
B-Complex
Folic Acid
Calcium/Magnesium/Zinc
Iron

I also read about Vitex/Chasteberry, a supplement to help improve fertility. I was taking it too on days 1-14,
and then to to top it all off, I read about using natural progesterone cream on days after ovulation to extend the fertile period. So, I was doing that too. I'd stop the Vitex on day 14 and start using the cream on all my pressure points day 14-21, but I would stop using the cream on day 21 to wait and see if a cycle would come or to see if I was pregnant. I was determined to get back to normal 28 day cycles and get pregnant again!

What joy I experienced July 10, 2009 when my pregnancy test read postive!!!!!
Yea!! Thank you God! #5! Oh my goodness!!! I was elated!
It worked!
I was healed!
I was pregnant and all was well!

I continued to take the vitamins but no longer used the Vitex or progesterone cream. I didn't need it anymore. I was pregnant.

On Saturday night, August 8, 2009, I began spotting.
I had never experienced this before, but I knew what it was.
I was 8 weeks pregnant.
Maybe I had just over done it that day. Maybe if I slow down and rest............
After church Sunday, things began to get worse.
I called the doctor. They told me to go to the ER.
I spent the afternoon in the ER. They examined me, took blood, ran sonograms.

The sonogram showed a sac at 5 weeks, not 8 weeks, no heartbeat.
Monday night, God allowed everything to happen naturally.

Tuesday, as I began sharing with all of you on groups and forums,
some of you knew what I did not..............

If you use progesterone to help regulate your cycles and you become pregnant, you must CONTINUE using progesterone until week 14 of your pregnancy. At that point, the body should begin making the progesterone on its own. I DIDN'T KNOW!!!!!!!!! I DIDN'T KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

This was my fault.............

I was being so selfish, so determined. I didn't leave it in God's hands. I took it into my own hands, and my lack of knowledge...................... I caused this.......................

The grief, at first was overwhelming.
If I had just waited for God or maybe the doctor and God working together.
I should have never taken the Vitex or used the cream. I had no business trying to do this on my own!

Some of the facts I've learned.......
Progesterone is the hormone that helps build, nurture and establish the Uterine wall for implantation of an egg. Each month, after ovulation, your body slows the production of progesterone. If you are pregnant, normally the levels will stay a little higher and begin increasing. If you are not pregnant, the levels continue dropping until a monthly cycle occurs.

If you are using progesterone creams or supplements and abruptly stop, your body receives a signal that it's time for a monthly cycle, pregnant or not, your body registers that progesterone production has stopped, and it's time for a cycle.

This is also what happens with birth control pills. Days 1-20 of birth control pills contain a level of progesterone, but days 21-28, when you take the placebo or no pill at all, the body is signaled that it's time for a cycle. YOU CAN GET PREGNANT ON THE BIRTH CONTROL PILL!!!!!

Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar talk about this in their book, " Twenty and Counting." After they had Joshua, they decided to wait awhile before having more children. She conceived while taking the pill and had a miscarriage. they too, were informed the truth about the effects of progesterone. You can get pregnant on the pill, but even if you get pregnant, as soon as those progesterone levels drop below a certain level, you are going to have a cycle, pregnant or not.

They grieved!! I grieved!!
Lord, we are so sorry.
We should have left it all in your hands.

I rejoice with the Duggars as they have announced that #19 is due March 2010.
The Lord has blessed them so for trusting in Him.
May God get all the glory!

Where do I go from here?
I've asked God and my husband to forgive me.
I should have left it all in God's hands.
I should have been more respectful and honoring to both God and my husband,
I should have been submissive.
I should have been patient.

For all of you out there considering using Vitex and Progesterone Creams to help you get pregnant, or if you are currently using these things............. Please take my story to heart.

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Roman 8:28 NIV

I'm laying everything at God's feet.
May He alone get the Glory,
Amy

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Lessons in Life - Hope

So many of us are experiencing changes. Changes in jobs, changes in finances, changes in health, changes in life............
2009 has brought many changes to our family: a new house, new responsibilities, a few new friends, a pregnancy....and a miscarriage.

I was so excited! I wanted another child so much. We have four so far: three girls 12, 8,5 and our little boy who is 2.
On July 10, 2009, we found out our newest little blessing was on its way and due to arrive in March 2010.
However, one month later, August 10, 2009, this little one went to be with Jesus.
It has been a very hard adjustment for us. I'll write more on my thoughts and feelings in future posts.

but for now, If I may, I want to share with you what my husband wrote for a memorial service we had here with a few of our friends. For all of you out there who have experienced this loss that no one else can understand unless they too have experienced it. May these words comfort us all.
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I've been thinking and thinking about it for a couple of weeks, and I knew I needed to do something but wasn't sure what. It wasn't that I felt an emotional need to closure or release or anything like that. It was just that something felt not quite right. I tried to express it to my friends like this - "It doesn't seem right that someone should pass through this world and noone acknowledge it." And even that doesn't fully express what's on my heart. I just don't know quite how to say it.


Knowing that our get together was tonight, I went to bed with that on my mind. And while I slept, I had a dream. I was talking to a man about various things, and was impressed with his answers. At one point during the conversation, I look directly at him, and I realize that it's Jesus. I immediately stop talking and grab him and hug him. Tears flow from my eyes and "I love you" comes from my lips. "Do you really?" he asks me. The verse "if you love me, you will keep my commandments" springs to my mind, and I begin to think of all of the things that I do and know I shouldn't, and all of the things that I don't do and know I should. I search that depths of my heart and return with the answer "yes," fearing what his response will be. He looks into my eyes with love and replies "then feed my sheep." At this point, my stupid phone goes off and I am abruptly woken up to take care of some stuff that's running late at work.

As I sit in front of my computer waiting for things to finish, I can't escape the realism of my dream. I ponder how I fail to measure up to God's standards and yet he loves and accepts me anyway. And how he loves and calls to others too, even those who hate him. In him we have hope, for we are called his children. We are brought into relationship with God and are given a promise and a future.

As I ponder what being in the family of God really means, and bearing his name, it dawns on me one of the things that has been bothering me. My baby doesn't have a name. My baby passed through our lives and changed them forever, and we haven't given it a name. We don't even know if it was a boy or a girl. But it was here, for however brief a time, and it made a difference and an impact, and it mattered to someone.

I tried to think of a name, of all of the things that had been rolling through my mind, and the name that seems most appropriate to me is Hope. We don't know what has happened to our child, but our trust is in the one who always knows the truth and does what's right. He loves us. He cares for us. He has made us His children. Our hope is with God.

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

You've Got Something to Say - Say It! Please Say It!

I've been blogging now off and on since October 2008, and for me, it's not just merely a avenue of self expression. It's a way of reaching out, sometimes to get back what I'm needing and sometimes giving what I think needs to be given. I've got something to say!
But so do you!
Many of my friends and aquaintances don't understand this blogging.
Man! I've got people in my life that don't even know how to use a computer, or have one and don't use it, they're missing out!
What are they missing out on?
Internet hugs, support in unusual ways, connection with the outside world, realizing we are not alone in our struggles, others are going through similar trials. Encouraging words of love and support just when you need them in a way that's just right for you.
Everytime I write, I think........ "I wonder if they'll read it. Why do I keep doing it? I bet if I quit writing, nobody would even miss me." (There's a huge pity party going on here, but it drives me CRAZY!)
I write because it is the easiest way for me to communicate what I'm feeling.
To those who don't know me very well...... yet. I am a 37 year old mother of 4 so far.
I home-school all of them and my two neices, run my own online business, maintain house and home, help where I can when I can, oh and by the way..........
I have a mild form of cerebral palsy.
I don't let it slow me down much though. Oh no. I've got too much to do and say and experience. However, it does get in my way sometimes.
There are times when my brain knows exactly what it's trying to communicate but the mouth and the body send out a completely different message.
For example, my two year old just woke up in a Horrible mood. I meant to hit SAVE and continue writing this later. I hit PUBLISH.
So, let's try this again. I'm often mis-understood, and it gets really frustrating.
I have one friend who constantly mis-reads my words, actions and emotions.
Continually trying to explain my real intentions or thoughts or feelings is exhausting.
As I said in an my previous post, I'm currently reading Stepping Heavenward by Mrs E.Prentiss. It's a wonderful, inspiring book for any woman going through changes, trials and tough times.
I know each one of us have our own story to share.
Mrs. Prentiss wrote Stepping Heavenward in a journal format.
The main character is Kate, who begins writing this journal on her sixteenth birthday and allows us to follow her journey heavenward through her life as a young girl, wife, mother and daughter to God.
She learns through her struggles, only God can truly set you free. Only in God can you find true happiness, and it's only when you learn to depend solely on him and give your life away to serving Him and helping others that you find the true meaning of life in this world, LOVE. And that LOVE, His LOVE leads you to a life of fullfillment more than you can ever imagine.

Remember the person I spoke of that often mis-understands me?
Kate has many people like that in her life, as do all of us. What did she learn through each trial and struggle?
She prayed.
"God, give the strength to love them. Show me how to love them."
He does just that.
So I will keep writing, and I will keep explaining myself, and I will continue to pray,
" God show me how to love them more and more."

Thank you to each and everyone of you who take a moment to read this blog, and follow along with me on my journey.
Thank you for your comments. They mean so much to me.
Without these comments, I doubt I would continue on, but we all need inspiring.
We all need encouragement and support, each in our own way.
May we continue to grow and journey together.

You've got something to say - say it!!
We'll never truly know the impact we make on this world until Jesus' face we see.
until then...... enjoy the youtube video I've posted here
The song and lyrics You've got Something to Say by Matthew West. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PSVGocVpLko

Amy